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5/3/2002

Wedding Ceremony

Filed under:General — eric @ 9:32 am

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Six months ago, I promised to post the text of our wedding ceremony here, and now that we’ve done a reinactment for those attending the lifewarming party, it’s time to do so…

As I mentioned before, we married each other. That is to say, we conducted our own ceremony, without a third person between us telling us what to say. Had we been in Kansas, that would have been all we needed. Since we weren’t, we got our minister (Hi, Steve!) to sign the right blank on the form. Besides our immediate families, three of our closest friends were in attendance.

The ceremony is cobbled together from other ceremonies we have read, attended, and performed, with some original layout and writing thrown in. We put the words in a wonderful book with a handmade cover of pressed botanicals, bound with natural string and wood, and leafed with natural screened paper. We read the ceremony without memorization or prompting.

Chris: We have brought you here to join in the celebration of our marriage. The presence of our family and friends enhances and enriches every experience in. our lives. We thank you for your generosity, love, and support as we continue to build our lives together.

And now, we invite anyone who wishes to say a few words in commemoration of this ceremony to do so.

{Those in attendance said a few words.}

Eric: Thank you.

Chris, I come here freely and without reservation to give myself to you in marriage. I will love, comfort, and honor you, and keep with you forever more.

Chris: Eric, I come here freely and without reservation to give myself to you in marriage. I will love, comfort, and honor you, and keep with you forever more.

Eric: I promise to accept you as no one other than yourself — loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know.

Chris: I promise to laugh with you in joy, grieve with you in sorrow, and grow with you in love.

Eric: I will be your equal, but not your double.

Chris: I will be your partner, never your shadow.

Eric: Together we shall share our discoveries and expand the boundaries of our lives.

Chris: Together we will live life to the fullest, for all the days that we share.

Eric: For all that we have already created together and all that we are yet to become, I offer my hand as your partner.

Chris: As your partner I give you my hand so that together we may realize our dreams.

Eric: I love you and ask you to accept me as your husband.

Chris: I love you and accept you gladly. Will you accept me as your wife?

Eric: I will. I give you this ring to remind you that I love you all the days of your life.

Chris: I give you this ring to remind you that I love you all the days of your life.

Eric: Little Cosmic Dust Poem, by John Haines

Out of the debris of dying stars,
this rain of particles
that waters the waste with brightness;

the sea-wave of atoms hurring home,
collapse of the giant,
unstable guest who cannot stay;

the sun’s heart reddens and expands
his mighty aspiration is lasting,
as the shell of his substance
one day will be white with frost.

In the radient fiend of Orion
great hordes of starts are forming,
just as we see every night,
fiery and faithful to the end.

Out of the cold and fleeing dust
that is never and always,
the silence and waste to come –

This arm, this hand,
my voice, your face, this love.

Chris: The chemist who can extract from his heart’s elements compassion, respect, longing, patience, regret, surprise, and forgiveness and compound them into one can create that atom which is called love.

Our hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and nights.

Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror.

By Khalil Gibran

Eric: Before you, we have promised to share our lives in marriage. You have participated in the covenent we have made. Thank you for your presence and blessings as we have become husband and wife.

2 Comments »


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    Well…fine…if no one else has anything to say…
    It’s awesome, Eric.

    Comment by M — 5/8/2002 @ 6:50 am


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    I don’t know either of you, I was doing a little research on John Haines. I must say however that was very beautifully done. BTW Gibran is awesome too. You both have good taste in poetry.

    Comment by Ronald — 6/9/2002 @ 6:49 am

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